Well monster, I don't disagree with some of the things you're saying but it seems to me you're applying them a little too generally here. For one there's the discrepancy of saying that the skills learned in the martial arts are not applicable in real life and should be taken only as fun and games. I remember in another discussion you were talking about a friend of yours who works in a special unit or something along those lines and how karate never failed him in numerous real life situations he faced.
Without a doubt the skills acquired grappling, combined with a common sense approach will serve you very well in all situations. Knowing when you're out gunned and running away to live to fight another day is another matter. But I do agree as I too am way past the tough guy stage and now know that the worst situations are ones you don't even ask for. Living a safe and healthy life is a balance of skills including emotional stability, a clear head when making a decision to do something, as well as the physical skills to deal with confrontations. I can't say I've perfected it for myself but at least I don't look for trouble.
About getting elbowed; I don't know Ray's way of training but I've had it happen in grappling unintentionally just by turning hard/twisting my torso to escape a clinch. I'm sure it can happen during a flurry of movement in many other situations. Hell I kneed a guy slightly trying to get top mount position today, didn't mean to do it but apparently hurt him a little. I apologized immediately.
In grappling today I experienced something relevant to what I mentioned before about becoming complacent. I let myself slip as I had north south position on a kneeling opponent. He put his arm around my elbow from the bottom. I thought he was preparing to sit out which I'm ready to counter and so didn't pay it much thought. Instead he grabbed my wrist with his other hand and did an elbow lock. It was surprisingly strong and affected my elbow and my shoulder at the same time. I was very close to injury, closer than in a long time. Fortunately he's a good guy who's aware of the effect of the lock and he applied it gradually. I asked him to show me the move. It's a good move that I will incorporate into my game because even if you don't get the lock from the bottom you can escape the position.


